Not one to normally post personal issues on here but I’m in need of Bunker advice.
I’m blessed that I have grandparents still alive, they’re 90yrs old. Both of them live with my parents and for the most part have been self sufficient. My grandmother is frail but still gets around fairly decent and uses a walker as needed, sharp, but doesn’t hear very well if at all. My grandfather was military, Auburn grad, very much a hero to me. He’s always been very active and healthy, proud, strong, even until recently.
Within the last couple of months he’s been in two single vehicle auto accidents where he’s absolutely trashed their vehicle. He does not seem to care that it happened, and I’m not entirely sure he remembers. The family has had concerns of dementia for which we’ve had him tested within the last year and he was found to be in normal decline at his age.
Question is, how does one go about taking the keys away from someone his age? It’s just time. We can’t find anything physically wrong with him but clearly he’s just not capable of driving anymore. He’s not safe for himself or others.
It seems silly, but it’s a really big deal and it’s been difficult on the family of how to approach. It doesn’t help that he doesn’t respond to women very well so my mother taking an authority position is not expected to go well.
Appreciate the thoughts. Sorry to the TLDR crowd.
I’m blessed that I have grandparents still alive, they’re 90yrs old. Both of them live with my parents and for the most part have been self sufficient. My grandmother is frail but still gets around fairly decent and uses a walker as needed, sharp, but doesn’t hear very well if at all. My grandfather was military, Auburn grad, very much a hero to me. He’s always been very active and healthy, proud, strong, even until recently.
Within the last couple of months he’s been in two single vehicle auto accidents where he’s absolutely trashed their vehicle. He does not seem to care that it happened, and I’m not entirely sure he remembers. The family has had concerns of dementia for which we’ve had him tested within the last year and he was found to be in normal decline at his age.
Question is, how does one go about taking the keys away from someone his age? It’s just time. We can’t find anything physically wrong with him but clearly he’s just not capable of driving anymore. He’s not safe for himself or others.
It seems silly, but it’s a really big deal and it’s been difficult on the family of how to approach. It doesn’t help that he doesn’t respond to women very well so my mother taking an authority position is not expected to go well.
Appreciate the thoughts. Sorry to the TLDR crowd.
