After about a dozen years, my wife and I have now encountered the last of the events of reproduction.
B - it started with about 5 years of infertility. We tried all of the shots and multiple rounds of IUI
I- IVF: we went through this process and and got 3 viable embryos. We ended up implanting 2 in October of 2016 and froze the last one
N- Infant loss. Our first pregnancy resulted in both embryos being successful. Unfortunately, we found out too late that my wife has an incompetent cervix. Her water broke, and she delivered our twin boys Asher and Benedict at 17 weeks, which is at least 3 weeks too soon to have a chance of survival. This was the hardest thing I have ever been through.
G- surprise pregnancies. Ironically, each time we began to discuss when to move forward with our last embryo, we got pregnant naturally. The first time, we even had an appointment scheduled with our fertility specialist for the next week before we found out we were pregnant naturally. Both pregnancies required 6 months of bed rest and were true challenges to our marriage, but we have two healthy boys at home now.
O- our first (and only) miscarriage. After going through a transabdominal cerclage, we implanted our last embryo in October. My wife had some bleeding at week 6, and we thought that we lost the pregnancy. Upon ultrasound, we learned that not only was the fetus still in there, but that it split, and we might be having identical twins. That was a crazy turn of events thinking that we would have 1 more, then no more then potentially 2 more. At the next week’s ultrasound, we learned that one of the fetuses was not really developing, so it was most likely going to be a singlet. Last week, we heard a very strong heartbeat from one fetus. This morning we had an ultrasound, and there was no more heartbeat. It was a tremendous shock.
I share all of this to let the Bunker know that despite this long and challenging road, my relationship with both my wife and with God has never been stronger. He has a plan for everything. Now that I have experienced everything possible that I can think of, I am happy to support any Bunks going through these challenges. They are hard/impossible to get through alone.
If you are inclined, please pray that my wife passes this miscarriage naturally and does not require a DNC. She’s been through enough already.
B - it started with about 5 years of infertility. We tried all of the shots and multiple rounds of IUI
I- IVF: we went through this process and and got 3 viable embryos. We ended up implanting 2 in October of 2016 and froze the last one
N- Infant loss. Our first pregnancy resulted in both embryos being successful. Unfortunately, we found out too late that my wife has an incompetent cervix. Her water broke, and she delivered our twin boys Asher and Benedict at 17 weeks, which is at least 3 weeks too soon to have a chance of survival. This was the hardest thing I have ever been through.
G- surprise pregnancies. Ironically, each time we began to discuss when to move forward with our last embryo, we got pregnant naturally. The first time, we even had an appointment scheduled with our fertility specialist for the next week before we found out we were pregnant naturally. Both pregnancies required 6 months of bed rest and were true challenges to our marriage, but we have two healthy boys at home now.
O- our first (and only) miscarriage. After going through a transabdominal cerclage, we implanted our last embryo in October. My wife had some bleeding at week 6, and we thought that we lost the pregnancy. Upon ultrasound, we learned that not only was the fetus still in there, but that it split, and we might be having identical twins. That was a crazy turn of events thinking that we would have 1 more, then no more then potentially 2 more. At the next week’s ultrasound, we learned that one of the fetuses was not really developing, so it was most likely going to be a singlet. Last week, we heard a very strong heartbeat from one fetus. This morning we had an ultrasound, and there was no more heartbeat. It was a tremendous shock.
I share all of this to let the Bunker know that despite this long and challenging road, my relationship with both my wife and with God has never been stronger. He has a plan for everything. Now that I have experienced everything possible that I can think of, I am happy to support any Bunks going through these challenges. They are hard/impossible to get through alone.
If you are inclined, please pray that my wife passes this miscarriage naturally and does not require a DNC. She’s been through enough already.
