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Here’s my own “Divorce thread”

PylonPythonWDE

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I feel for you I am in a similar situation. We have 3 kids young kids. My wife wasn’t really happy but we married young she was 21 I was 23. She was always my high school crush and we dated on and off before she got married to someone else when she was 19 that ended in divorce. About a year ago she brought up divorce, me being terrified thought that would be a terrible idea, she then suggested an “open marriage” I for some reason agreed to this because I couldn’t/can’t see myself living without her she’s my world as well are our kids. Fast forward to this year our youngest child turns 1 next month. My wife is about to go on her 2nd “trip” to see who I now know is her 1st husband. My wife and I are in a platonic marriage and I am very much up and down, down most of the time but idk what to do because I love her and I don’t want to break our family apart. I guess it’s a case of I am in love with her and it’s not mutual definitely. I still don’t know what to do. We had always been friends before having kids and marrying. She wants to just be a platonic and raise our kids under the same roof. But jealousy, regret, and feeling inadequate/forgotten are getting in the way of us doing whatever it is that we’re doing for the kids… it’s F’d I know.

I appreciate everyone who gave me some courage and stand up and do/say something. The bunk is so much more than just a message board and I am thankful for you guys/gals.

This was the first time I’d ever openly talked about my situation, and I have to say that it made me feel a lot better about moving forward. As I said yesterday I was hesitant about divorce due to kids, financials, housing etc. while being absolutely miserable for the last couple of months, delisionally hoping things would change for the better but they only got worse. I hate that our kids have to see us fight especially when she ultimately doesn’t care how I felt, the usual response from her was “get a grip” or “can you not, our children are watching.” I admit I was/still am dealing with some jealousy issues. However this morning I’ve finally come to terms with getting the divorce and moving on coparenting our little three of 6, 3, and 1.

I know some like to bash her for what she did to me but she is the mother of our kids and I will still love her for giving us them. I’m sure I could’ve been a better husband through the 6 years but what I’ve come to realize what’s done is done and there can be 0 regrets. We BOTH deserve to be happy. Here’s to another chapter of life whooo!
 
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